Lost in (Man)slation: 3 Male Behaviors Deciphered
What the hell does a guy mean when he...?
It's time for another installment of Mans-lation. You remember (and if you don't, click the link), it's when I ask my male friends for their advice on and interpretations of male behaviors that we women just can't figure out.
This time, I summoned the wisdom of comedian Billy Sorrells, the man who helped spawn the "Shit People Say" meme with his sketch "Shit Black Girls Say." The funnyman, who dubbed himself the "Casanova of Comedy," hails from Houston, Texas and recently got his own show on Jamie Foxx's Foxxhole radio show on Sirius XM. (Stay tuned to foxxhole98.com for more on that.)
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But for now, listen to Billy get a little serious and drop some gems about 3 new conundrums plaguing the ladies.
He Doesn't Believe in P.D.A.
What does it mean when you're out in public with a guy you've been dating and he doesn't want to hold your hand, put his arm around you or kiss you, even on the cheek?
Billy says: "You have to realize that when you hold a woman's hand in public that you then have to defend her because people are going to assume she's your girl. Sometimes though it has to do with wanting to keep your options open - not wanting to be tied down. If someone asks you later who the woman was you were with, you can say, 'That was my sister, cousin, whatever.' If you're holding hands with a chick, there's no denying her. Then there are some guys that are emotionally insecure, they're so masculine or trying to be a gangster, they're trying to be so tough that they can't be tender. It takes a certain level of compassion to hold a woman's hand."
He Was Interested, Then He Fell Back...But He Still Contacts Me From Time To Time
What is it about a guy who seems all in and then he disappears and then regularly reappears via text or chat?
Billy Says: "This scenario has several possible meanings. First, it could be that after seeing you, you turned out not to be as fine as he thought you were. Or, he spent time with you, had a date, maybe had some sex - the point is, mission accomplished. Or, the opposite, you turned out not to be the 'jumpoff' he hoped you were. But the reason he lingers is to keep the lines of communication open as a fail safe. It's a 'break glass in case of emergency' situation in which a man may want to always have a way back into your life for physical time, affection, even money."
Why Do Men Cheat?
I know, I've read the statistics - women are just as likely to cheat as men, but still men seem to do it at a significantly higher rate. What gives?
Billy Says: "Why does anybody cheat? They think they can do better, they want more, they're greedy. I mean, think about men who cheat frequently, they're powerful and ambitious and that same drive is what makes you want to multi-task things. The other issue is that so many people equate sex with love, which is just not real. And is cheating only when I have intercourse? What about when I'm chatting with someone? What about masturbation?"
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(Billy asked that we include the following statement: "These opinions do not reflect the personal values of Billy Sorrells." My response: "Billy, stop lying!")
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