Act Like a Woman, Think for Yourself

Putting Steve Harvey's 90 day rule to the test.

With Steve Harvey’s New York Times Bestseller, Act Like A Lady, Think Like a Man coming soon to a theater near you, it made me think about that rule…you know the one where he says you should wait 90 days before doing the do? Well, do people really agree with that? I mean, I’m all for waiting until you feel comfortable and you shouldn’t rush things but 90 days!? I think the most I’ve waited is 30 and that seemed like a long stretch. So I surveyed a few of my friends to see what they thought and they all vehemently disagreed with Harvey.

I asked they guys: Would you deal with a woman, who after reading Steve Harvey’s book asked you to wait 90 days before having sex?

One guy friend of mine who is single and in his early 20s said, “No. And not because she is making me wait, but because she is living by a template, and someone else's template at that.” Another guy friend, who is in his mid-30s and married responded, “HELL NO! I might stop dealing with her just for reading that [book]. I'm fine with any number in between 1 and 90. If you [sleep with me] on Day 1, I'm questioning you and if you tell me to wait until Day 90, I'm going to look at you like you’re crazy.”

And the ladies agreed. When I asked them, "would you make a guy wait 90 days before having sex?" One 20-something in a relationship said she wouldn’t make a guy wait, “I think I’d know sooner than [90 days] if I was into the guy, besides, why deprive myself or just use sex as a carrot on a stick? Sex should just come naturally, not as a bargaining chip.” Another 30-something, also in a relationship stated, “I’m really too grown to think in terms of a time frame on sex. I’m nearly 40, I can’t listen to Steve Harvey.” I also asked a single girlfriend of mine and she said, “I have no reason to make anyone wait. People think that by waiting 90 days they get to know someone better but that’s not necessarily true. I prefer to follow my instincts.”

Seems like we're all on the same page here.

So, I’ve got to know what you guys think. Is 90 days really reasonable? And does it really mean, you won’t find your perfect mate if you decide not to wait?

Please weigh-in, I want to hear your thoughts.