The (D)evolution of Basketball Wives' Suzie Ketcham
Her flunky behavior is worse than that of bullies
Basketball Wives is proof that bullying can exist amongst adults. However, society is so busy talking about why bullying should cease that we're miss a key component to the puzzle—the flunky.
So far, through the various seasons of Wives, we know who the mean girls are, but can we talk about Suzie Ketcham? Take a wild guess as to which category she falls under. Let’s take a look at Suzie’s fall from grace and use her behavior as a model for why it’s important that people become independent thinkers.
In season 1, Suzie started off as the show’s free-spirited party girl. She got along with everyone and steered clear of the drama for the most part. Eventually, she met an alleged groupie named Sandra and decided to get tough with her since none of the other women liked her because of her reputation (which was based on unfounded claims). It seemed harmless at first but at the season 1 reunion it got ugly. Suzie threw a bucket of water on Sandra and pushed her off the stage. Watch:
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It was later revealed that Sandra slipped and fell as a result of the incident, so she called authorities and had Suzie arrested. It was surprising to see Suzie behaving that way, but it was a sign that she could have been spiteful all along. Yet, by the time season 2 rolled around, she was very low-key and admitted that nearly going to jail had forced her to calm down a bit.
But eventually, her mouth got her into trouble when she gossiped about Evelyn to mutual friend, Al Reynolds. Evelyn didn’t appreciate it, overreacted and kicked Suzie out of the "circle." It was so pathetic that Suzie even considered leaving the show, but eventually she came back and they made up.
It seemed like all was right with the world and that Suzie was back to her jovial, carefree self, but this season tells a different story. Suzie’s ego has been inflated and she's suddenly become a mean girl. On one hand, she claims to want everyone to be friends, but on the other she's so eager to be accepted by the wolf pack again that she decided to try her luck at picking on Kenya.
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Did you notice that the same mouth that got her in trouble with Evelyn is now gabbing about the new girls? Was it okay because they weren’t in the circle? From this point on, Suzie has felt that it was her job to “demand” an answer from Kenya about everything, from making music videos to simply being crazy. Suzie was all mouth with Kenya, but it was a different story with the inner-circle ladies. Watch Suzie put her foot in her mouth with Tami and get put in her place:
Suzie sat down as she was told, most likely out of fear of feeling Tami’s wrath. But she didn’t hold her tongue when it came to being catty toward Kenya, which was sad considering that she had once been on the receiving end of negative behavior, too.
It’s because flunkies pick and choose who they bully based on what they can get out of the deal. If it’s someone who isn’t accepted by the majority, then they’ll try their luck because they want to impress the wolves. But when it comes to offending the leaders of the pack, they’ll do anything to make the situation right, which fuels bully behavior.
The lesson in this is that the desire for acceptance should never be that serious - especially when the people you're trying to impress are a bunch of degenerates (which is usually the case with people who bully relentlessly).