Keep Your Relationship Off the Internet
2 months ago
It's one way to ease the heartbreak
You "Tweeters" and "Facebookers" out there, listen up: It is not a good idea for you to put all of your relationship business on the web.
I just joined Facebook this year (I know, I know, I’m late to the party) and I have to say, I learned so much more about my friends’ personalities than I could have ever imagined. A few of them are serious over-sharers. By giving up all your info on what's happening in your personal life, particularly in relationships, what happens when things go south?
Then you have to change your status from "in a relationship" to "single" and ward off all of the posts on your wall, asking "What happened?" Not to mention the fact that you'll need to take down all of those vacation photos. And what happens when you get a new boo? You want them trolling through your pictures, messages, et cetera looking at your past?
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Internal baggage is bad enough, but you can cover that up or get help from a therapist. On the internet however, things tend to linger, growing cobwebs until, of course, someone unearths it. Now, true people shouldn't go digging for things but that's another thing about the internet, depending on the search terms and the diligence, you never know what might show up.
A friend of mine started dating a new guy and totally forgot that she still had several pictures of herself and her former flame up. When the new boo peeped it, he was less than happy about the pics. She eventually took them down. Another was in a long-term relationship and when she broke up with her boyfriend and changed her relationship status, she quite literally had to turn her phone off from all the phone calls she was getting.
My final point is this: Most of us that have been in a "real relationship" learn that the less people in your relationship, the better. It is, after all, only between you and your boo. Keep third and fourth parties out. The two-cents sometimes adds perspective, but most times it's just noise clouding your own judgment.
And well, with the internet, monitor yourself as closely as it's monitoring you.