How to Get Over a Broken Heart
Some people are only meant to be in our lives for a season.
Relationships come and relationships go. There are people who stay in our lives for a lifetime. Then there are those who are only meant to be around for a reason or a season. Understanding this helps the healing process when a relationship we thought would last long-term ends.
Mending a Broken Heart
I recently taught a bible study where I talked about ways to mend a broken heart. How do you embrace this change? How do you overcome periods of depression and sadness? Psalm 34:18 says, the Lord is close to the brokenhearted and he saves those who are crushed in spirit. This is one of my favorite scriptures because it lets me know that in the process of change, in the process of healing from the loss of a relationship, God's presence is close to me. That salvation he offers to me during my state of depression helps me through.
Fear of Depression
In our society, we're afraid to talk about depression. The interesting thing is that the bible rarely refers to one’s state of sadness as a form of depression. But depression has many forms. We often have experiences in life that could lead us into periods of depression. The end of a relationship, romantic or non-romantic, is one. During these times we need to remember two things:
1) Know that the pain will not last. When we're going through something, it’s difficult to envision ourselves outside of the hurt. Trust that there is a day coming when you won’t feel the pain anymore. Have patience with yourself. Know that through the process, there will come a point when the hurt doesn’t feel the same once you’ve moved on.
2). Be honest with yourself about your feelings. Really acknowledge where you are in the healing process. Don’t deny or suppress the emotions you are feeling. You’ll be lying to yourself and prolonging the healing process if you don’t except the hurt you’re experiencing. But do not be defined by the pain. This is the time to self-reflect. Learn how to be whole again, without being dependent on the relationships you’ve lost.
3) Have hope. For me, as a Christian, as a person of faith, I have hope that as long as I keep my eyes fixed upon God's power and love I am indeed able to overcome.
4) Know that whether a relationship was positive or negative, we learn something about ourselves. I can honestly say that the majority of my relationships have helped me to become a better person; they’ve allowed me to recognize greater things about myself, and to grow.
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