Diva Down! Beyoncé's Career is Over?
The gift of life is priceless but it can cost women their career
God bless diva Beyoncé Knowles, her husband and her pregnancy -- but her fans must certainly know her career as they know it is over, right? She will always be a diva -- only God can bestow that honor and only He can take it away -- but it's hard for anyone, balancing life, love, career and parenthood to stay on top. In order to do so it means a critical sacrifice that normally involves revaluating the importance of family over career aspirations.
Not because of patriarchal oppression but because careers tend to have lives of their own, a life that no superstar can fully dictate. Careers need the same love, care, nurturing and patience as young children require. Women have struggled with this conundrum since the 60s — because after the bra’s stop burning, she brings home the bacon to fry it up in the pan, someone still has to help the kids with their homework. Someone still has to do a wash. Sometimes that person is the husband – but not often enough. Then, there is that balance. Despite what you think, one CAN do it, but it takes two to do it right. Kids need Mommy just as much as they need Daddy.
Fans should take heart, because Beyoncé’s had a good run – been to the mountaintop, as it were. But it’s not like her dude isn’t an earner. She’s gonna have that baby, start baking cookies and settle into a career writing the hits instead of singing them. Those days of break-neck touring and such are over -- divahood is virtually impossible with small children in tow. Maybe she’ll hire help, but I promise you, she’ll have to choose at some point. Not for nothing, lesser women than Beyonce’ have found themselves at that same crossroads.
SPOILER ALERT: The smart ones choose their kids. When they don’t? Well, then you read about them in the news showing out cause Mom wasn't there to love them.
Think I'm being over the top. Take a look at some so-called Divas who after having kid(s) their careers cooled off.
Whitney Houston - Houston marries singer Bobby Brown, they have a daughter, Mommy and Daddy careen their careers into a pole of cocaine and dookie bubbles as America wonders who's watching the baby. Both have fallen out and off but we can only hope Bobbi Kristina is somehow better off for that. Both still
sell record albums, but not often.
Christina Aguilera - At the height of her popularity, Aguilera decides to get married and have a child. The marriage crumbles, as does her career. When was the last time we’ve even seen the baby? Oh right – a few days ago. NICE.
Britney Spears - The grandest pop diva in the world starts diddling with The Help, inseminator to the stars Kevin Ferderline. This turns into a marriage, subsequent divorce and custody wrangling. We are entertained. Trying to balance the checkbook, career and baby on her lap has proven challenging and to date, Spear's career has not recovered from motherhood.
Lauryn Hill - Hill was the most promising voice of female empowerment in rap music since Queen Latifah, until she began making babies. Motherhood took over her life and those children became the priority over all else -- as it should be. Even though she does shows here and there, we will never know what could have been.
Michael Jackson - The King of Pop wants to become the king of Pops so he goes off and does it turkey-baster style and with his secretary. Despite the fact that they wore masks most of their young lives and were hung from balconies, he seems like he was a good single father. It’s worth noting that while he put out some good-to-great records, his priorities clearly changed. Nothing he did after he became a single father ever came close, artistically or otherwise, to "Thriller."
Divas never recover from motherhood. They go on being divas, but they never take the same risks, never push the boundaries. They struggle for relevancy, play a lane and then run it into the ground as they retire into self-parody (see also, MADONNA) Can you name a diva who has had a vital career right after motherhood?