You Could Be Bilingual And Not Even Know It

1 year ago

Keesha Sharp breaks down "The 5 Love Languages"

As some may or may not know, I’ve been married going on 14 years to my wonderful husband Bradford Michael Sharp. And if there is one thing I know about staying married is that I’ve got a lot to learn. My husband and I are constantly eager to learn about human relationships. Because the truth be told, we are not the same people we were when we married (thank God). We are constantly maturing, therefore we are changing. In our quest for higher learning, we discovered a book. A book that actually helped us understand or maybe more accurately, put a language to our inner needs. The book is called “The 5 Love Languages” by Dr. Gary Chapman.

When I first read this book I finally understood what my husband and I were trying to say to one other. I understood that the way he loved and needed love was a bit like a foreign language to me. I loved and needed love in a different way - a different “language”. And for those of you that aren’t married and may be thinking “Well I don’t need this, I’m single”, or “I’m not looking for anyone right now” or may be you are too young to think about marriage, well, these “languages” apply to anyone in your life (mother, brother, friend, father, boss, co-worker).

Let me explain, by first giving you a brief description of each language. These are the five languages described here by Dr. Chapman.

Words of Affirmation: Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

Quality Time: In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.