Seven Dating And Relationship Resolutions For 2012
7 Ways I Plan to Overhaul my Love Life in 2012
Although this is what I hope to do this New Year, you might find some of these goals helpful to you as well. And guys, I know these are pretty female focused, I think you may find some that apply to you and please if I left anything out or you’ve got any suggestions, please feel free to add to the list below in the comments section.
Happy New Year!
1. Make Being In A Relationship A Priority
Since I was a little kid, I never put marriage and family at the top of my to-do list. But as I get older and learn myself more, I realize how much I value companionship and that it is not only okay to want to be in a relationship (I used to see it as a sign of weakness), but it is also highly beneficial. Aside from the fact that married people live longer, I’m actually a more pleasant person when I’m in a relationship.
2. Be True To Myself
This is a tough one I find for many women. We so often get consumed by our relationships or by the fact that we’re not in one at all. But in 2012, I want to become more in tune with what I want. The specifics — how I want to feel, how I want to live, who I want to be and how I can find someone that not only compliments those desires but also who helps me get there.
3. Save A Little For Me
This falls in line with #2, “being true to myself,” I want to be able to strike a healthy balance between love and career. I want to be able to date and get my work done without feeling overwhelmed or as though I have to choose. I’m not sure how this will work other than simply making “me” time. And the bonus is that having my own personal and professional life makes me even more attractive to potential mates. Or so I’ve been told.
4. Date Like A Man
Women often take this idea the wrong way. Dating like a man doesn’t mean being a “dog” or “playboy,” it means giving yourself some options. Most men will tell you that they have a lady for every occasion — good sex, good fun, good laugh, good adventure, good talking, etc. Women try to find it all in on guy and all too often, it doesn’t work out. It’s too much pressure. So instead, build your roster. By getting to know different guys and figuring out what I like, I will get to know what I like.
5. Say What I Mean and Mean What I Say
If I say this is what I want, this is what I need, only I can ensure that those issues and concerns are met with resolve by being uncompromising in particular areas of my life. A big problem with us as women is that we’ll convince ourselves that we’re okay with things we’ve openly discussed being against like just because we’re really into a guy. Don’t do it. Know thyself.
6. Never Take Anything Personally
This is one of Don Miguel Ruiz’s Four Agreements. Such a crucial statement and I honestly believe that by subscribing to this train of thought is truly freeing. It allows you to let go of caring what anyone thinks because whatever their actions or inactions are, they are a reflection of the person struggling, not you.
7. Stay Ready So I Don’t Have to Get Ready
This is a favorite line of my great grandmother’s and my gay “boyfriend,” J.B. This covers everything from finances to my physique. If my savings and spending are in check, that means I don’t have to scramble for funds when I’m ready to go on vacation, start a venture and such. Or getting my body and keeping my body in beach-ready condition so that if I decide to hop on a last minute flight with my girls, my guy or all by my lonesome, I’ll have no shame showing off my curves on the sand.
What are your relationship resolutions?