Halle Berry Marriage: Should More Black Women Follow Her Lead?
Newly engaged, the movie star places spotlight on dating outside of your race
At 45, Halle Berry is ready to tie the knot for the third time, according to People magazine. Her recent engagement to French actor Oliver Martinez has African-American blogs, websites buzzing about the actress’ decision to date outside her race.
A source told the publication that 46-year-old actor Oliver Martinez, best known for his seductive character in the 2002 film “Unfaithful,” gave Berry an emerald/diamond engagement ring. Photographers already snapped photos of Berry wearing the ring on her left hand.
Berry had a daughter by her white ex-boyfriend Gabriel Aubry, which turned into a race war over the ethnicity of three-year-old Nalah, who the actress said was Black. Berry had two failed marriages with David Justice, a baseball player from 1993-1997, and singer Eric Benet, from 2001 to 2003.
Since the failed marriage to African-American singer Eric Benet in 2003, Berry has been quietly dubbed as the spokesperson for interracial relationships. Is the media shocked that a beautiful African-American woman would tangle with another race?
We’re not really sure.
Last year the topic of black women dating outside of their race caused quite a stir. From Stanford professor Ralph Richard Bank' book "Is Marriage for White People?" to the Love Essence, a new online dating site just for men of all races who love black women.
But her engagement definitely has sparked more discussion about interracial relationships, and if black women should follow suit.
According to a Gallup/USA Today study in September last year, approval ratings for interracial marriage have skyrocketed. The surveyed found that 96% of blacks and 84% of whites approve of marriages between the two races. Overall, 86% of Americans approve of a white/black relationship.
Loop 21 writer Erica Butler placed the following question on Facebook: Should more black women follow Halle Berry?
Users weighed in, and here’s what they had to say…
I think black women definitely should be more open. A lot of men of different ethnic backgrounds find us very attractive. And a lot of the time black women just brush them off (this is a story I’ve heard several time from friends and people I have dated).
I think that all people should date outside their race. I mean, not saying the next person who you see you should date them. But if someone from another race approaches you, don’t be so fast to say no. You never know what experience you may have, and finding true love should not have limitations. The way in which a person treats you is not better based off their race. As long as you are treated like the queen/king you are it shouldn’t matter. It shouldn’t matter even if society is frowning upon your relationship. They don’t know what really occurs between you and your significant other so let them frown. At least you’re happy.
Shanee Nicole Paul:
Dating outside her race hasn’t led her to have a successful relationship or marriage.
Race should not limit with whom you share your love. I applaud Halle for keeping an open-mind. I do not believe that her choice in race has anything to do with why things have not worked out.
Kimberly N. Carnage:
I’m excited about Halle giving love a try again! I think it’s a bold and fearless move. And I don’t think that black women should or should not follow her. She’s a woman, regardless of color. She experiences the same feelings that any other woman who chooses to be vulnerable in relationships does. So if we can learn from her or relate to her then so be it.
Follow your heart and quit focusing on celebrities. They just serve as a distraction from things that are more important, such as your LIFE, your family and friends. That’s who should get your time, love and energy.
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