Sex: How Men & Women Differ
New research says men and women have very different sexual regrets. How else do the sexes differ in the sack?
No one's sexual encounters play out like a sepia-tinted love scene from a movie. In reality, men and women have a varied sexual past and could have very different regrets, according to researchers from the University of Texas at Austin who studied data from more than 24,000 male and participants. The Huffington Post reported findings from a new study published in the October 2013 issue of Archives of Sexual Behavior. Turns out women are more regretful about things they had done, while men regret things they wish they had done.
The most common regrets for women:
1. Losing their virginity to the wrong partner (24 percent of respondents)
2. Cheating on a present or past partner (23 percent)
3. Moving too fast sexually (20 percent)
The most common regrets for men:
1. Failing to make a move on a prospective sexual partner (27 percent of respondents)
2. Not being more sexually adventurous in their youth (23 percent)
3. Not being more sexually adventurous when single (19 percent)
Backing up the evidence from the entire history of male-female relationships, it appears that women really are more emotionally tied when it comes to sex, while men are driven by procreation. How else do men and women differ when it comes to sex? (via WebMD)
Men think more about sex:
Most men under 60-years-old think about sex once a day. One quarter of women think of it that frequently.
Men seek sex more avidly:
"Men want sex more often than women at the start of a relationship, in the middle of it, and after many years of it," Roy Baumeister, a social psychologist at Florida State University.
Women's sexual turn-ons are more complicated than men's:
"Men are very rigid and specific about who they become aroused by, who they want to have sex with, who they fall in love with," says J. Michael Bailey, a Northwestern University sex researcher. Women, on the other hand, may be more open to same-sex relationships thanks to their less-directed sex drives, Bailey says. "Women probably have the capacity to become sexually interested in and fall in love with their own sex more than men do," Bailey says. "They won't necessarily do it, but they have the capacity."
Women take a less direct route to sexual satisfaction
"For women there is a need for a plot -- hence the romance novel. It is more about the anticipation, how you get there; it is the longing that is the fuel for desire," says Esther Perel, a New York City psychotherapist. Women's desire "is more contextual, more subjective, more layered on a lattice of emotion," Perel adds. Men, by contrast, don't need to have nearly as much imagination, Perel says, since sex is simpler and more straightforward for them.
Do you agree with these findings on sexual regret?