Father Defends Shooting Daughter's Laptop over FB Message
8-minute Youtube clip of dad venting and unloading his gun has 28+ million views
His name is Tommy Jordan and like most parents he just wanted his child to understand that using Facebook to bash your parents isn't a smart idea. The only difference with Jordan is he owns a gun and decided to shoot his daughter's laptop to help drive the point home.
Since posting his video on YouTube on February 8th, it's been viewed over 28 millions times and lead to Jordan launching 8minutesoffame.com. While he has many supporters, his gun-totting also caught the attention of local police and child protection services.
Jordan recently provided e-mailed responses to ABC news about all of the attention.
QUESTION: Your video has been viewed millions of times, was it your intention for it to garner so much attention or was it meant to be shared on a smaller scale?
ANSWER: It was meant for two audiences:
First, it was meant for the Facebook friends she has her own age that thought “Hey, that’s so cool that you stood up to your parent’s that way. That’s awesome!” I wanted them to know in no uncertain terms that she didn’t get away with it.
Secondly, it was meant to the parents of those kids who let their kids come play at my kids’ house. I was mortified and embarrassed that one of my daughter’s friends fathers, a local police chief, might look at that video and think “I can’t believe that sorry excuse for a man lets his kids talk that way. My kids will certainly NOT be going over there again.”
I guess time will tell if that worked or not. Lol. If she comes back over, I’ll know I’m OK with her parents I guess. If she doesn’t, I’ll be REAL careful not to ever speed through that township … EVER!
Q: People have applauded your actions as good parenting and others have criticized you for being too extreme — what do you have to say to your critics as well as your supporters?
A: To those who support the decision: we sincerely thank you and appreciate it. I didn’t do it for your approval, but when the crap hit the fan on the net, it was really awesome to be able to fall back on your comments and emails. I’ve read every one of them and I plan to somehow, someday, respond to all of them.
To the critics: Hey, you raise your children however you want. Mine don’t have criminal records, don’t skip school, don’t fail classes, and they’re polite (most of the time). I hope your brand of parenting works well for you and your family. I’m not in your shoes and have no right to tell you how to raise your children. As long as they turn out well in the end, then our jobs as parents was well done. If you can find a way to express that in a video … I’ve heard that’s the new thing now.
Q: You put a lot of work into her laptop, time upgrading it, $130 in software updates — why destroy the laptop? Why not just take it away?
A: Because I’d already done that, once for a brief time and once again for a longer period of time. That didn’t work. I can’t be sure who said it first, but Albert Einstein was credited once for saying the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
People tell me he was a pretty smart man…
Q: People who do criticize your actions seem to take most offense to the use of the gun; can you explain your choice of using the gun rather than another method of destroying the laptop?
A: Because that was what I promised her two months ago. If I’d promised to use a hammer, or promised to give it to someone else, then that’s what I’d have done. If I promised to send it to the moon on the back of a rocket, I’d have been screwed I suppose, but I didn’t promise that. I was stuck by my own words. I said “If this happens again, I’ll put a bullet through it.” It happened again.
Q: If you could go back would you still make the video and take the same actions?
A: That’s tough to answer, really. I believe everything I did was appropriate. However, I also believe the freak occurrence that made the video go viral means the punishment accidentally outweighed the crime. A couple hundred friends and friends-of-friends saw her post. So far, 27 million have seen mine. Although the more we are on the end of a public hot-plate the more we are seeing that parents across the nation are standing up for their rights as parents again and putting a stop to their kids language and feelings of entitlement, so if we struck some cord there, however accidentally, then maybe some other child won’t go through this. I consider that a positive effect and it helps to make some of the drama worth it.
Even more than that is the intrusion and investigation of CPS/DSS into my family’s life though. That has been stressful for each and every one of them, including my daughter. The people who thought they were doing her a favor by sending hundreds of calls to CPS only means she has to deal with some lady dropping by her life without warning for months to come, just to make sure we don’t beat her and lock her in a closet at night. It about stressed my wife to the breaking point, though the final report from CPS thus far has been that there’s absolutely nothing to worry about, no signs of abuse in the past, and that our family is healthy and happy overall.