There have been many mixed opinions surrounding the issue of stay-at-home dads.
There have been many mixed opinions surrounding the issue of stay-at-home dads. In fact, the virtual world broke out in uproar when Doyin Richards, a Los Angeles-based Nigerian father who is currently on paternity leave, posted a few photos of himself tending to his 2-year-old and 6 month old daughters while his wife was away at work. Not once did Doyin think that he’d be criticized for wanting to stay home with his children. Most of the backlash came with preconceived perceptions that Doyin was either lazy or incapable of parenting all day alone. So my question to all of you parents out there, are fathers just as capable of completing the same parenting tasks as mothers?
While some women agree that a man can hold down the home front just as well as a woman, still, there is a big majority who feel otherwise, believing that men just don’t have the nurturing skills it takes. A recent study in the Journal of Consumer Research concluded that, “At-home dads aren’t trying to be perfect moms. Instead, they take pride in letting their children take more risks on the playground, compared with their spouses. They tend to jettison daily routines in favor of spontaneous adventures with the kids. And many use technology or DIY skills to squeeze household budgets, or find shortcuts through projects and chores.”
Fact is, times are changing. There are a lot more dads at the parks, hosting playdates, and dominating bake sales. Stay-at-home dads are growing more popular each day, especially with more women becoming active in the work force. So what he doesn’t do it the way you do, as long as the kids are being well-taken care of is all that should really matter, right?