Ask Sujeiry: What Should I Do With My Stripper-Addicted Boyfriend?
If he's in love with a stripper he's probably not in love with you.
I don't mind strippers or strip clubs. I even enjoy them from time to time. Not all the time like my boyfriend! I think he's addicted.
He wants to go every weekend. His boys are all single so it does not help. I've gone with him before and it was sexy as hell, but now he's going without me. I don't know what to do about it.
Do I confront him? I haven't yet. I don't want to be a nag. I really don't want to be that girl. I just need some damn balance and time for him and I on weekends. I need some serious relationship advice and guidance. What should I do?
I personally would have the same issue that you have with your boo. For one, he's spending his weekends with his boys staring at naked women, and not with you. Weekends are for couples, not guy time or stripper time. I think it's fishy. No pun intended.
Let's forget the strip clubs for a moment. My question to you is: why do you think he is not spending time with you? You mentioned you don't want to be a nag. You don't want to be "that girl." So maybe your carefree, stripper-watching ways have led him to believe that it's all good.
You haven't even told him you want him parked at home and not on a stripper. Have you lost your voice for fear of being like every other woman? I think you play the role of calm, cool and collected girlfriend. That's why he feels free to watch naked women swing on a poll. You were probably making it rain along with him! That's why he isn't considering your feelings.
I will leave you with this: a man will treat you the way you allow yourself to be treated. If you do not speak up about your dissatisfaction, he will never satisfy you. So, shake off your chill vibe. Unless you're planning a career as a stripper, you need to tell him his eyes should be only on you.
Love strongly and wisely,
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Sujeiry Gonzalez is a relationship expert, write, media personality and author of Love Trips: A Collection of Relationship Stumbles. She is also the Senior Producer of Relationship Content at Loop21.
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