Is Texting Bad for Your Relationship?
It appears that couples who text each other all the time aren't as happy as you would think.
New research shows that couples who let their thumbs do all the talking might be having some serious problems.
Brigham Young University researchers Lori Schade and Jonathan Sandberg studied 276 young adults around the country and had some interesting discoveries about the use of technology in their relationship (via Science Daily):
- For women: Using text messages to apologize, work out differences or make decisions is associated with lower relationship quality
- For men: Too frequent texting is associated with lower relationship quality
- For all: Expressing affection via text enhances the relationship
"Technology is more important to relationship formation than it was previously," said Schade in the report published by the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy. "The way couples text is having an effect on the relationship as well."
The researchers founds that 82 percent of them traded text messages with their partner multiple times a day. Many of these couples used texting to for "relationship maintenance," as researchers described. These texts include topics such as serious conversations, disagreements or apologies.
"Reaction to disappointment and reality testing occurs more quickly face to face," Sandberg said. "There is a narrowness with texting and you don't get to see the breadth of a person that you need to see."
Simply, unless you're saying something nice, committed partners need to put down the damn phone down and have an actual conversation.
Do you think you should text your partner less now?