Reverse Chivalry: When Did Men Start Wanting to be Treated Like Ladies?
1 year ago
Some men believe it's women's turn to do the wooing
I am surrounded by amazing, smart, loyal, bad ass women. My friends are accomplished, well-read, well-traveled and cool as hell. We have all planned trips, cooked meals or, in the words of Destiny's Child, "catered to our men."
But I recently read an article, "Is Chivalry Dead or Just Changing Lanes?", proclaiming that if women want chivalry, they need to partake in a little generosity of their own. The writer says, "Maybe the gentleman’s code is merely endangered. Whether the prognosis calls for resuscitation or restoration, the labor of both genders are needed." Freeze. Now, I'm a modern woman and all that; I don't expect men to hold open, a door, or pull out my chair, but it is certainly appreciated.
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I've picked up more than a few tabs and gone out of my way to do thoughtful things for men in my life, but if you don't pay on our first date, you won't be getting called for a second. I know that doesn't make me what the author describes as a "chick in search of an alpha meal ticket." Or does it? I'm just trying to figure out when this demand for role reversals occurred?
I mean, I know there are women out there looking for someone to save them or just to "put a ring on it" but hell, they put in work, too. Cooking, cleaning, maintaining their trophy-like appearances, playing cheerleader to their guy. So, when did men start wanting to be treated like ladies? Wanting to be courted and pursued? I dated a guy once where I felt like I was putting in all the work and I had to tell him, "Hey, I'm the girl!" Where's the reciprocity in that?
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So, for all the guys out there complaining about what the woman they're seeing is and isn't doing, how about you check yourself first? We've got to deal with a whole heap of double standards, so sorry, that you all have to deal with being a gentlemen. And let me tell you this, if you just do the bare minimum - be consistent, follow-through, plan a date every now and then - any woman of quality will show you the moon and stars. Period.
Guys, do you agree with this gentleman blogger? And ladies, what are your thoughts on the matter?